i did it. i send a happy birthday to a person who really really hurt me. it’s been a year and i still couldn’t move on with my feeling. that pain is still stucked inside as i go on with my life. a picture with one dead pixel. i still can see but not perfect. 
i said once i’m still learning various emotions a human being have and this one is a level i still don’t understand. how come a pain feels so good. it damn hurt, but the more painful the more sweet it tasted. a memory is actually just a tiny working brain cell and causes electric cloud throughout each neurons. but how come it affect me so big and as i typed this writting i’m still shaking all over?
funny if i remembered. a week before last year birthday i met this person. candy sweet lolipop taste gum drop gummy sugar was all we had. that was the first time i ever been in love. and ever be. we had so much and i try to control my self by letting go what i really feel like. getting rid of the grey in me and blend in as one of them. it was a huge change. i change for a heart i couldn’t find elsewhere. i pray to God as i really mean it. blessing and blessing is what i always mentioned in nights of hope and peacefulness.
but then it began to change. in the light i found another light but dimmer. and starting to fade. we start to lose our communications, i always try to reach to d’s mobile but mail voice after mail voice is all i get. that was it.
i knew i was facing the fact we have to seperate. even though there were no goodbye’s i know we reach the finish line. the reason of all that is a truth i always try to kept and hide to myself. i didn’t dare questioning the love in my hand and blew it on my face.
so, months after that i still couldn’t let go. until last christmas i sent a simple message and saying goodbye and take care. until tonite i suddenly woke up in my sleep for no reason and knowing it’s someone’s birthday. it was kinda odd for me, a forgetful person without a reminder, knows the exact date of a person’s birthday.
but the reply was quite soothing, a thanks and a blessing too. i wasn’t expecting a reply, since i always got nothing from past messages. but what the hell. i know what i did tonite is wrong. first, remember the birth date is wrong and second sending an sms is worse. but two wrong doesn’t make a right. just a simple confessions to myself that the little L is still there…..
Once you had gold, once you had silver,
Then came the rain, out of the blue.
Ever and always. Always and ever.
Time gave both darkness and dreams to you.
Now you can see, spring becomes autumn.
Leaves become gold, falling from view.
Ever and always. Always and ever.
No-one can promise a dream come true,
Time gave both darkness and dreams to you.
What is the dark; shadows around you,
why not take heart, in the new day?
Ever and always. Always and ever.
No-one can promise a dream for you,
Time gave both darkness and dreams to you.
Enya - Once You Had Gold
I heard the same story over and over again..i heard it many times whenever I’m alone..I heard it again when whenever I face the mirror..I keep on hearing it whenever I walk to the same place as where we used to walk before..the pain remains..and thou you want to cloud your memories your heart remembers and your brain couldn’t forget..and you wonder to yourself..how long will this last?will it ever stop?will I still love? I long for peace in my heart..enough of thunder and rain..coz i always feel soak and churning in pain..the coldness and fire still lingers in me..why is it that its only me? He doesn’t care anymore and thats the truth..yes I know but my heart still hopes..
move on, it hurts but you have to face the truth…maybe that someone is not for you…
She hurt you, then she had never even been worth your love!
Btw, gapapa yah loe curhat internasional gini? Obyeknya emank gak akan baca?
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U’r such an incredible writer, except the imperfection bout the Grammar thing. I know it ain’t deal tat much but please allow me to correct it.
It’s not “sending sms is worst” but “sending sms is worse” bcuz when u compare 2 situations wat u get is a comparative form,not superlative.
Another error,”Was all we had”, not was all we have.
“It began to change”, not, there was began to change. U cannot put was with a verb past tense..bcuz a verb past only stands by itself.
Wat I did tonite “is wrong”, not are wrong.
hey dude
well i totally understand how u fil n y u do tat.well nothing wrong to wish her birthday!!but dun give to much hope tat she wil reply back or keep on waithing 4 her..u ahve to move on wit ur life too.ive bin in ur situation b4.its hurt,pain n kiling me.i cant really focoz in wat im doing.thinking of him morst of my time even now i stil cant acep tat we both oredy over.i still hope tat we both can end up being friend but he totally reject me far away frm his life!!i do sms,email or make a phone call to him but no answer at all.its my false givin too much expectation on him.now im suffering!!!
well but i learn lots of lesson in tis life.god love me more then my xbf love me!!!da more he hurt me da more i fil myself close to god!!i dun noe y buy i fil it amazing inside.its hard to tell ppl how u fil inside.i totally noe how u fil inside.
i did da same thing too.wen im down,i really need n miss my xbf..i do..n sumtimes i sms him in da middle of nite but i know he will neva reply!!at least i fil better after i send sms.my friend used to say tat im stupid n should leave him.its easy to say but memories remain inside.only myself know how its fil.
hey dude..cheer up ok!!meet lots of friends all over da world.keep ur self bz n pray to god alwez.im sure ull be ok.take care
u know wat after i read ur blog make me miss sumone!!!i miss him!!!n its hurt inside!!
Great! I was really touched.I envy the girl so much and wished someone could also have that same intensity of a feeling like that for me…anyway, good luck dude…im sure you’ll find someone better…
oh, i was able 2 relate…that seems the same situation I gonna face right now…I still love that person but it seems I’m only d one who fight for this love…It really hurt me…so badly…but maybe…I should accept it and face the new life….
Well, for you…U r right..u came already in the finish line…It’s now the right time to face your own life…Life is so short and make it a valuable one…Good luck and God Bless u always!
i dont what to say coz i hurt someone like that i fell guilty!!! but same here move on,,, and godbless!!!
words by words is really touching me…
ive been throught that pain before..
i know how painfull it was…
just believe that god will lead the way..
if u really love someone sometimes u have to let go..
hey andina…
i do love my xbf so much n he take result to let me go coz he dam much love me..is tat all d answer!!!
if i love sumone i wont let him go..i wont coz i dun want to be hurt..
reading tis blog make me fil emotional..
yeah, i didn’t think that what you did was wrong like sending a sms on her birthday. It’s jsut like letting go of the feeling of heaviness inside your heart. I bet right now you feel lightened by what you did and she gave you a reply. That means you both have let go of the past. Now you face the future with a bright face.
i know what do you feel. and i ever feel same.
you must look forward.
you must look at the future.
this life is not just ’bout love.
this life has many problem inside.
and we can’t solve all of the problems.
and we must solve as much as we can.
and the rest, we must believe, that God will give us the best way.
oh feelings,feelings, feelings. what could be worse than being in the same boat as you are? boy am i such a great lover i go out of my way such and such to the end i end up the loser…….it is not good to be too much in love much less not to be in love though. like what the others say, it is much better to love and lost than never to have felt that wonderful feeling called love
yo dude, i did d same thing as u did. i send a hapy birthday msg n i got a thank u reply. dat was 2 yrs ago… and i stil can’t quite let go… i m wondering when will i b free again 2 love… g’luck 2 u man. g’luck 2 me as well.
Hi!
A warm greetings 4 u =)
I read on ur blog incidentally.. Something juz attracted me by reading d simple title, not sure why, but i end up clicking on it and started to read..
It really touched my heart.. especially 4 a guy to act dat way..
Best wishes 4 u, may u meet a girl who love u as much as u deserve..
Take care! =)
Hi!
Can’t rEsist to Read your BLog entry, Like you, Im still trying to recover from a break-up, there was no formal closure too. Months passed, but the pain and the feelings are still there, but Im tyring my best to accept the fact that it’s already an end to a once beautiful story, that time can no longer bring back what ended. I also accepted the fact that there are things we wanted so badly,but we just can’t have it,and lastly, I Accepted the fact that if we pray, God answers them, but the answers can’t always be Yes, it could also be a “NO” and “WAIT”, but we have to believe that whatever answer GOd will give us, IT WILL BE FOR OUR BEST
HAVE FAITH! 
take care nd Godbless you 
this emotional torture will go away sooner than what we expected!
that was quite touching.. I couldn’t resist reading your blog, you know, it was the first blog ever that appealed to my senses ( i don’t usually read blogs but yours caught my attention and interest though honestly speaking, I haven’t really felt that way and hope i would never be..)I don’t know u and haven’t really known anything about u but ur blog s quite someting, it transcends beyond the limitations of the eyes and s a sweet panacea of the mind..
as I was reading ur blog, I came to realize that not all guys are worst, I really did thought all guys are until i happened to read ur blog.. U know what, I may not have experienced the same fate, but I know for certain that God let that happen for a reason and that reason s yet unknown but one thing s sure, it’s the BEST for both of u otherwise, something much, much worst would happen between the two of u.. I suppose u learned a lot of lesson from that.. I do hope u’ll b happy with the one u truly love that would truly love u as well..
It’s OK.. everything’s gonna be alright…..
life is not all about love sumone but its about ppl who loved us!god,parents,siblings,close friends…arrrrrrr…love hurts..i hate being single..
dude i know u r strong!!!
hey,
to all girl’s that has that prob, just ask god sme help, and he will guide in the rigth path. just like me.
GOD BLESS YOU ALL.
boys dont cry.. but a real man does.. two thumbs up!
I had the same story and I understand how you feel about it. He really hurt me and I still remember the pain. At the same time, I miss him as well. We’ve been together for 4 yrs and he met another girl after we seprated for about 2 months. It’s really hurt. It’s almost 10 months now. I even send him a msg on his birthday last month, using someone’s mobile cos I don’t want him know I still miss him. Am I silly enough?Whenever I walk to the same place as where we used to walk before,the pain remains. I know I had to overcome it and I’m trying. I know he doesn’t care about me anymore although my heart still hopes he will contact me someday…
I was moved with your blog.i don’t usually read blogs.just a piece of an advise.Life has to go on.You loved,be loved.your pain will still remain if you don’t really let go.
just think like this…you deserve somebody better than that person you loved.You can make it!Good luck!
its ok, maybe ur not meant for each other, just leave it like that the more u think of her the more ur hurting urself… just get busy with other things which can help u to overcome ur feelings… when u are hurt, that’s the time u can feel the true hapiness in life…
there is nothing wrong in sending sms to her, maybe what made it painful in ur part is that u still didnt move on. u’re still nurturing those times uve been together and there is a sort of regret in ur part.Move on! meet new friends and get urself busy… “don’t find LOVE, let LOVE find YOU”.. goodluck and GODBLESS!!!
what you did was really amazing, there’s nothing wrong expressing ur real feelings to the person u like…whoever your girl was,,she’ll miss a half of her life if she’ll let you go.
hi!
i agree with Iva there that your really an incredible writer except for the grammar, maybe you have to really work out on it to facilitate the smooth flow of words and to bring out the harmony of all your thoughts and sentiments…as you can see you are touching more & more lives out there and your becoming a sort of a celebrity?:)
jzt sharpen your grammar skills and you will b perfect!
GOOD LUCK & MORE POWER!!
yes,its hurt so much…especially when we hoping too much… but thats life, face it… and be strong…!!
Hi, came by ur blog incidentally.. Well-expressed. It takes courage to pen all these down & it takes even more so just to live & move on with life. Yet this is only a part of life. Painful as it is, only those tt have been thru it will truly understand the extent of negativity.
Though it may seem absurd, try to move on. It’s not worth wasting ur life & time like this.
hi, u’v got so much love to share and so much compassion for it so don’t waste ur time crying on spilled milk. Remember there’s always a reason for everything.
your lucky your already out of it and now on the stage of recovering i guess God will guide you i know how to advise but honestly dont know how to apply it to my self only 1 thing I can assure u God will heal your pain, why i said your lucky coz im still in a realtionship where i feel i need to let go but i cant coz im too much in love in this person so still even i cried almost nigth im still holdin on and hoping that everything will be ok between us i wish if time comes that il be on your situation i got that strenght to face it and also burst it out. till next. Godbless
your lucky your already out of it and now on the stage of recovering i guess God will guide you i know how to advise but honestly dont know how to apply it to my self only 1 thing I can assure u God will heal your pain, why i said your lucky coz im still in a realtionship where i feel i need to let go but i cant coz im too much in love in this person but things between me in him are too much complicated
so still even im crying every nigth longing for him that he loves me the same way i love him im still holdin on and hoping that everything will be ok between us i wish if time comes that il be on your situation i got that strenght to face it and also burst it out. till next. Godbless
i can relate with you, i also had that experienced..but god did not abandoned me, because i prayed a lot to survive the pain, though its really hard to let go especially when you still love the person so much, but everything happens for a reason,you may never understand what the reason is but as you move on & continue life you will find the answers to your questions..continue to seek god in your life, because HE knows whats best for you! godbless you…
yeah, it really suck when u think something was right for u but then it wasnt, but trust me it sucks more if u want a person so bad but u cant have him/her coz ur tied…
i’ve gone by your blog entries and they really rocked.
i feel the same way too. it’s been over a year and yet i’ve never forgotten that person. i guess he’ll always be here, in my heart.
i wonder how many years would i count before i could get over him?
gee. only God knows.
bless you my dear.
we can forget them. swear.
i agree w/ nelly..
its really hurt sO
MUCH… maybe you
should have to forget
her…but its up
to you,if you want
to cOntinue to
be hurt…
me?i have a love one,,i really
really love him so much,but i just have to leave him.coz’im the one,who will suffer in the end… goOdluck to you.
hey dude. don’t be so sad yeah. i’m sure someday God will send you the right girl who’s meant for you. maybe this breakup is like a lesson, to teach you to be able to appreciate your future girl better. i’ve not been in love before but well, i guess im crushing on someone now but well, leave it all to God yeah! : D
sometimes love makes u hurt,but otherwise whenever u’ve got hurt from that love,u will be more stronger n stronger…i know u can Face it!!
i still love her
hey just move on men…lot of gurls outder way better dan her..its so hard to move on but u shud..
I don’t know you but Well done for sending the birthday wishes or even redundant. Great that you are moving on slowly but surely, even forgive her…? I know one who isn’t so big hearted as to forgive another for the hurt from separation almost 2 years ago.
I don’t know you but I read your blog by accident. I’m really attracted by the 1st paragraph and just can’t resist to continue reading!
“i did it. i send a happy birthday to a person who really really hurt me. it’s been a year and i still couldn’t move on with my feeling. that pain is still stucked inside as i go on with my life.”
How familiar of this feeling!
To be honest I thought u were a gal at the beginning!
I’m also trying to let the pain go but after 1 year, I found that the more I try to forget the past, the harder it gets. However I do feel comfortable now coz after reading your blog and the comments, I know that it’s not only me suffer, lots of ppl are suffering out there just like me! Let’s move on! We deserve better. Good luck and Take care!
As cliche as it may sound, time does help…it never does fully go away and she will always be there somehow, somewhere in ur memory…but time will take away the edges to the memories and hopefully, when u look back on it in the future, all u remember feeling is the love u once shared and not the pain u were put thru’ from it.
Best wishes and stay strong. I’ve been in ur position and have also sent messages and various other things…but after awhile, things do get better…lotsa support out here!=)
wat can i say…that was so sadi feel sorry4 u & 4 that grl because she never knew what she had lost.
i’ve been there..me n my ex had been in relationship for almost 5 years and he dumped me. and its been 2 years after he dump me..and when i had birthday he always send me sms but not for me..when he had birthday, i didnt sms him..i think it’s too painfull for me..but time goes on and i reconsider myself to give him an sms at his birthday next year..
ur pastlife will be ur great experience and that’ll make you more mature to face this world..
,.that’s life..full of thorns.. all we have 2 do s to strive enable us 2 win.. learn and move on.!
yes..its sound sad..so sad.very touching also.i tell you what, u are lucky people bcoz you got the chance to feel the feeling.men..life must go on!Be tough!
Hi!
I honestly wish that someone would love me like that! You are lucky that you have loved, remember, its better to have loved than to have never loved at all!
Hi, I read all the comments and there was someone trying to correct your grammer.I think you are not missing this person its just suddenly you remembered this person’s birthday.It always happens when you go through things in life exspecially the hurts. This kind of feelings just don’t fade away. It will be somewhere in our heart and mind.Then suddenly it will pop up again. So learn to deal with this and there will be many more you will face in your life.Take it as it comes and let go the pains.Take care. I really enjoy reading your simple words.Arry Hans
hey tol dats life……may d lord guide n bles u olwez.cherUp!!!hop someday i want 2 c happy wid ur family..
i’ve just done the same thing just like u,
said a happy birthday 2 someone that i wanna forget.n of course it hurt me so.but anyhow,that time i thought that every person has their second chance.n though his not mine anymore, at least, he can be my friend.
so, wake up dude, life goes on n it will not end just bcoz of it…
i know how u feel dude…
because the exact situation also happens tom….
people say it is just need a few minute to fall in love with someone but it needs entire life to forget…
you are right about ” the more painfull the more sweet it tasted…
I ever fallen in love a year ago….it fell so right but also so wrong…Since i met him, slowly i began to change…My feeling about him allow me to do so…i can’t be my self beside him…then suddenly our passion love have began cold
the bad new was he left me when i was sick…when i really need him so much.He hang me around without any decision about our relation.Then , i said to him it was over eventhough i did’nt want to say so but i have too.It is still pain in my heart when i remember him or if someone tell me about him.Until now, he still stuck in my heart, i still cann’t find a way to let him out of my heart. I wish i can…so dude, you are not alone.
but life must go on
we have to step forward
don’t look back
maybe we will not forget it
but maybe we can learn for that
i think the only thing that help me through this is my patient and of course my Lord
The measure of love is 10% of things, they are are 9% is pain and 1% is happines
it means we have through 9 of pains to get 1 happiness
That make love in our life has value
Some people say love is like a ghost…everyone talks about it but only a few person can see it…i hope u the one among that few person…
oc….
“U’r such an incredible writer. . .”
—You don’t read much, do you.
“. . .except the imperfection bout the Grammar thing. I know it ain’t deal tat much but please allow me to correct it.
It’s not “sending sms is worst” but “sending sms is worse” bcuz when u compare 2 situations wat u get is a comparative form,not superlative.
Another error,”Was all we had”, not was all we have.
“It began to change”, not, there was began to change. U cannot put was with a verb past tense..bcuz a verb past only stands by itself.
Wat I did tonite “is wrong”, not are wrong. ”
—Duuude. That’s not even half of it. Why this blog was ever featured on this site is beyond me.
stay strong, man! you are almost there..
well well
hey, did you really felt that way?…well, we have the same story but then…i was not the one who was hurt but i was the one who hurt my partner. this is actually what life is..there should be somebody who must get hurt for one to be happy…just understand here nlng..(though i know that im not in the position to advice you..hihihi.smile:-)
Although you dont know me, let me just say, you are an incredible writer. And I’ve gone through what you have, and I bet almost everyone has or will. But what I admire most about you is that you are able to put your feelings into words. Something I could never do. For I dont do talking. I can never heave my heart into my mouth.
Anyway, Its easy for me to emphatize with you. So all I can say right now, everything will turn out okay. trust me. =)
Try to accept that you cannot totally forget someone who was ever that important to you.
Most of us only retain the good memories.. The bad doesn’t seem so bad anymore.. and the sweet seems even sweeter by comparison to what we perceive we are left with.
Let what was not conveyed, not said, to be left unsaid. Let the sweet memories not become nightmares that haunt you at night.
Recognise that you will come to love again. But love and happiness won’t come searching for you unless you allow yourself to open a new new chapter of your life.
There is no turning back, my friend.
Live well, be happy.
hmmmm sounds familiar…actually a lot ppl experienced the way you feel and i am one of those…even if that feeling still around..all we need is to go on..i know you can or we can. all we need is to accept…be happy dude…thats all we need..
letting go is really hard!
“Everyone knows how to love, because we are all born with that gift. Some people have a natural talent for it. But the majority of us have to re-learn, to remember how to love, and everyone, without exception, needs to burn on the bonfire of past emotions, to relive certain joys and grief’s, certain ups and downs, until they can see the connecting thread that exist behind each new encounter; because there is a connecting thread.”- eleven minutes
bonjoir! that’ life . ur still normal. goodluck and godbless.
hey there..oww..kindda sad… well i understand you..i know how you feel………really i do… but thats love..we have to feel the pain before we realize that we truly love someone..Life Sucks sometimes..but we still
to move on..goodluck.
Hey, Chris, tq for editing my Grammar correcting sentences.
“I always try to keep and hide”, not ” I always try to kept”. After “to” you can only use verb stem (Exception for “Looking forward to”).
Well, Better, actually there are stil several mistakes but eh, I’d just prefer to keep kewl…except if i get paid? :p joke.
Just dun wanna sound dat fussy.
well, most of the guys have said it all already. i feel for you. love is indeed too big to handle. hope your doing well now
i can relate to you but it doesn’t mean im feeling the same… maybe we can call that emotion as true love? i don’t know how to express this, its just that i had experience almost same with your story. anyway, i can still admit that i still love the person im talking about, always and forever. dove daise?
well…you said it all bro! “all i can say is why settle for less while you can have the best…” move on…
for some reason, i’d like to write you back…perhaps because i was once feeling what you’re feeling right now…(am i really over it?i still can never tell.)
i guess, some good things never last..it’s just what i always put in mind..and somehow, it helps ease the pain..
sometimes, the love we wanted so bad…the love we wanted to keep for real…is the same love who’s not intended to last…not because we’re not better person, but because, it’s simply, the love who’s just not meant for us, period…
at the end of the relationship, i have blamed myself for letting a great love lost…how i could have missed the clues that we’re already drifting apart…question after question…but there was no answer…
it was a gruelling battle, and i would always lick my emotional wounds in private and wished that soon i be dead because the pain was too much…and it’s tearing everything apart…but it never happened…
it was so many years ago now…i have grown and embrace loneliness like a daily pill…at times i was worst, sometimes a little better…but i need to move on..it was not easy, but i realized that the pain is no longer as painful as it first hit me…
im into a relationship now. and i can say that, God has given me the greatest gift in him…i still think of my first heartache…my first love at times…and i know i still will always be…but i have forgiven him and myself…we’ve had faults, we’ve had mistakes, but we loved truly, but it just didnt last…
love still, even if it hurts…even if it hurts more…because only then will you realize how good love is… goodluck to you & more power!
Same situation doh….I still love him..and it wouldn’t change juz like 6 years ago..Well done to U!
well i dont know wat 2 say but u hav 2 MOVE ON u wil find some1 wil love u as much as u love her.well good luck
fantastic!!! i
salute you for
being brave to
show the true
fellings you
have for the
person..people
won’t under-
stand it until
they come and
face the same
situation.memo
ries are hard
to forget, it
deals your
feelings time
after time how
-ever you will
never under-
stand the true
meaning of
L O V E
if hurt didnt
come your way.
..let peace
come your way
my friend.
hey dude,
MOVE ON…ds s d only thing u can do…u hve nothing to do but to move on…derz stil better life ahead of u…dnt waste ur time with that fuckin’ person…u dnt desrve her and he doesnt deserve u either…it’s jst n d beginning, d pain s der but as time goes on, im sure u can forget her…olwiz pray to God…he knws wats best 4 u…gud luck
i sympathize, i know exactly how it feels to be left behind not knowing the exact reasons why it had to happen and how in hell could you ease the tormenting pain.
for 21 llong years, i never had the chance to meet someone who could meet my heart go pit-a-pat, pit-a-pat..but just last year i met this guy who made me feel more like a woman than as a man, i thought i love him maybe coz i really am not sure about this thing called love—but yeah i do like him so much that it hurts like hell when i think of him again… he just took off..gone..lost..
yo paL.. be like a soldier.. Learn whEn to fight anD surrender.. dAh art of leTTing go is dAh easiest adviSe to giVe yet dah hardEst tHing to do.. yah know, i goTta fresh woUnd to0.. buT i’M firM with mah decisi0n to moVe on.. tough-touchy-struggle bUt i cAn’t keEp maH seLf into daH deEp vaLLey of agoNy.. reMorse?? duH.. noT mah cUp Tea.. i loSt my loVe.. tHEN Be IT.. faCing rEaLity is mY mediCine.. tHats how i try to moVe on.. 1. fAce rEality.. 2.aCcept tHat tHings are noT ment to be.. 3.Be happy tHat you have yOur lovE for a whiLe.. 4. tHen Let go..
try… ta-ta-ta
yah…it is really a sad love story but it is okei! keep on going…maybe, time will heal your wounded hurt.
Maybe God put a few bad people in your life , so when the right one come along you’d be thankful. so cheer up bro. i know u can make it. be brave and strong. Good luck. Nice blog ha …..
hey, time heals.
u know when the best part is going to happen? that one day of the year that you forget her birthday.
if u still want to stay,… stay. u dont TELL yourself to move on. you’ll move on when u’re ready, cuz you oredi know the world doesn’t stop spinning for you grief.So,it is only the matter of time. so, chill bro.
i just read ur story, please be tought men…life must go on…..c’mon…i trust you can do it better..
hey dude im touch w/ your message juz keep blieve in god okey……!!!!!
bro, common don’t be a bald head, there are alot of girls out there, why not go out and find someone you think worthy of that love you have…..
i also experienced that..
its very… oh i cant explain it…
i tried to make my self busy… but still this feelings keep on haunting me…
i want to forget everything bout this feelings but i cant…
but thats love…
you need to feel the pain,
coz when hurtin’ its simply means you love or you deeply love the person
So sad…is this a true story or what???
what an inspiring story!!
Keep Strong OK!!
im in the same situation right now…like you i still feel the pain in my heart…i’ve given so much of myself to a cruel and heartless creature who only thinks of himself…although i still love him, im thankful thats i finally have the guts to let him go…move on…thats what we have to do…keep yourself busy, connect with other friends you have not seen for a long time…don’t give loneliness a chance to hit you, in God’s perfect time HE will give us the person who will love us…unconditionally!! Cheer up!! Its not the end of the world! There are lots of people around the globe who are experiencing a lot more difficult situation than what we have
I MISS YOU BE SAD AND
I MISS YOU BE HAPPY
i know where you’re coming from…for i have been there…
yes, pain lingers…even if you already forgive the person who caused you such pain…but it’s up to you, to continue allowing yourself to stay there…
a month ago i choose to heal myself…i let go, finally…after 3 years of being in hell of that pain, someone leaving you behind for another person…
allow yourself to dwell with that, cry if you must…but please move on!
life is beautiful, don’t allow a little to pain to stop you from living… get out of there, fast!
hi…i incidentally pass on to ur blog.it touches me somehow…it really hurts i know that…i knew someone who have gone to that pain and i dont know if she already moved on….time heals all wounds….and try to think of yourself more than anyone….sometimes its only all in your mind………
life must go on…… move on!
i’ve been hurt before, but i just belive that there is a lot of people we will meet. may some one is waiting 4 us there.
lyf mst go on… yah right… u mst go on w/ ur lyf. it really hurt u but all u hve 2 do is to mve on. God loves u. He wnt leave u no matter wat. Jst always trust Him. Pry always. God bless u.
Dude, reading your blog reminds me of how i’m feeling towards her… The one i love… Gosh, i believe a year has passed.. There is alot of things that you should consider… Everybody has been saying that life must go on.. True enough… But to me, what’s important is the memories that stays with you.. I didn’t have a choice but we had to go our separate ways… I sent her sms on her birthday and still remembers her favourite songs… She told me to be frens.. I had to accept even though i know i still love her.. Those things kept me going… i think that is what u are experiencing now.. Take a step at a time, pick up the pieces where you have left off and you’ll certainly find that one and only.. All the best Dude…
Oh,Dude!You’re not alone,I know the pain how it feels like…. it is really hard to move on…and it really takes time to heal the wounds..and even it is healed,the scars are still there..and everytime you see it…it will still remind you again of the past..
Oh,Dude!You’re not alone,I know the pain how it feels like…. it is really hard to move on…and it really takes time to heal the wounds..and even it is healed,the scars are still there..and everytime you see it…it will still remind you again of the past..
hi you brave one!! i have read ur blog and it also touches me so much.. all you can do is to let the pain go..time can heals wounds and evade the things that remind u of her if possible..i am sure that someday, u can smile with the past..u cant take it away easily but gradually.. don’t hide under ur shell but face the sun and the whole world!!! and the most armor that u must do is to PRAY to God that u can pass all the struggles uve been in right now.. dont lose ur hope..BE BRAVE AND STRONG.. GOODLUCK!!!
hi, don’t worry, set him free…becuase if he really loves u he will take the risk to have u again……i understand u why u still hoping that someday he come back to u because i experience of what a heartache means & u still hoping that he come back but…..but u have to move on…..be strong …
It was Ur 1st paragraph that attracted me to read ur blog….
I’ve been in ur situation just last week….
The 1st of July was his birthday….
it’s been 2 years love strucked me out of nowhere…
n for those 2 years i’ve been trying to figure out how he felt about me…
i prayed..and GOD answered my prayer…
and that time came…2 months ago…
to my surprise he’s also been hiding his feelings towards me for the past 2 years…
2 months ago we confessed 2 each other about our love…about our feelings….
but at that time also…we knew that maybe for this time being…we can’t be together…bcoz of the situation…
it sad to know that just when u thought u’ve won love…just when u thought u’ve reached love…just when love is in ur hand…u must let go…
i kept asking God..why???…but haven’t got any answers…yet..
becoz we can’t be together for this time being…he told me it’s better for us to keep a distance..not to communicate by phone or sms…maybe by that we could forget…
when his birthday came last saturday…i don’t know if i should send him a birthday greeting….but my friends told me to send it to him just what a friend would do…
so i send him sms…not in the morning or at day time but at 11.15pm coz i thought maybe he might be asleep by then…and i don’t need his reply…but to my surprise he asked me to call him…
we talked on the phone…but like 2 strangers…
then he came to talk to me at the hospital where i work yesterday night…just to say that he can’t forget me and still have feelings for me…to tell me his dillemma…but until now we haven’t got any solution except to pray…if it is GOD’s will for us to be together then HE will unite us…
i don’t know what to say to u….
just keep on praying n trusting GOD….that HE knows what He’s doing…He knows what’s best for u….
“During the times when you and I can’t trace GOD’s hand of purpose, we must trust His heart of love!”
it’s not easy…i understand…it’s hard….it’s hard to forget..
maybe…
THE BEST way to FORGET is to REMEMBER….
_Serenity Prayer_
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
enjoying one moment at a time;
accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
that I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
forever in the next.
Amen.
Reinhold Niebuhr (1892-1971)
P.S. Sorry…for such a long comment..!
Let me share you this piece…
Loving Yourself and Letting Go…
Loving yourself and letting go….
Loving yourself more by letting go of someone who
loves you less (or does not love you anymore)
makes you a better person.
Tell yourself that you will only love him until the
day that he loved you. The art of letting go starts
from the ultimate conviction that you love yourself
more and you believe that you don’t deserve to be
hurt.
There are many other people who are worth loving,
people who are worth caring for, people who will
give equal emotional investment. Learn how to pick
up the pieces of your shattered life.
Don’t hide…
Cry…
Cry some more…
It’s all right to cry because you get hurt. There’s
something with tears that cleanses the soul and
purifies the spirit. But never run around like a
headless chicken. Don’t give the person who hurt
you the opportunity and the satisfaction to see you
suffer.
I will only die for a person who will die for me. If in
this lifetime I will not find that someone, I will be
honestly happy and content in my
solitude. “There’s dignity in being alone.”
Loving yourself and letting go….
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i’ve been through the same and let me share you this piece:
by letting go of your guard and loving someone makes you vulnerable to pain. By loving someone you allow him/her to hurt you in a way no other can. But by showing love and giving the same just shows you are among those who have brave heart… taking the risk, for after all, no pain no glory. But those who learn to let go, specially at the time when it became necessary to do so, showed more courage than those who love and hold on. Be proud, be among those who made it through the rain and survive, you have a big heart, big enough to take all the pain, including the pain of letting go someone whom you loved dearly.
i understand you! u love her for real thats why! but if you think with her memories youll be happy then stay with that memories dont move on ! life is full of surprises youll never know somwhere down the road youll see each other again! but just be ready if she couldnt love you back the way you love her! but since uve said its get more sweeter while u hurt ok go on!
hi!
i guess we both have the same sentiments, being hurt…but you know what? life and loving is a risk. what is important, that whatever happends win or lose your standing still not just to prove that your strong but to give much respect and love to yourself. let me share to you this quote.
to laugh is to risk appearing foolish
to weep is to risk appearing sentimental
to reach out for another is to risk involvement
to expose feelings is to risk exposing one’s true self
to place ideas and dreams before a crowd is to risk ridicule
to love is to risk not bein loved in return
to live is to risk dying
to hope is to risk despair.
to try is to risk failure
and yet , the person who risk nothing, does nothing, has nothing and is nothing.. life is all about taking risks… goodluck!!!
Wow…its was absolutely well said and written word for word ,makes me wanna cry….truly it is remarkable to full inlove this way,i can relate coz it reminds me of the same feeling i use to have to someone i use to love ….I can only say was..Time heals all wounds…you dont know when it will happen ,it will pass you by in a certain amount of time ,naturally..LOVE is so powerful when felt by heart and soul …LOVE takes two not just one way..To make it happen..I reckon..Take Care…
wow. dat was sooo well written… haha. id pray dat ud b able 2 move on n b happy.. u seem lik e gd person. ^^ just live life to de fullest.. and dont let dis obstacle bring u down and destroy ur life. ure worth more den dat. =)
Hi,
don worry,keep on going with ur life..time will change everything soon..nothing is remain unchanged.i know it’s really hard for you but you have to face the reality.my last advise is be strong and keep going..happiness will come towards you..
is it my tym to post a comment for you?! in my opinion, you have forgoten all the memories accidentally.. juz that you r’mber them in a sudden!
but actually it depends on urself, you want to forget o go on hurting ur week heart.. plz ask urself after you fnsh reading my commentz. thanks!! if in ur mind, you want to forget her, you can and you may! juz belief in urself n you will do it..!! in ur mind, you will ask urself how to forget her throught all the pain that she gave you right? easy, juz make urself buzy thought out ur tyms. dun give urself a chance nor two to remember her. it’s not worth to wait for her. she dun even appreciate you, why you have to appreciate her?! moreover tym can prove ur love to her!! she lost in this match while you gain alot.. you know how to appreciate someone you love while she don’t.!! so, why you have to waste ur precious tym to r’mber futile x-gf.!! however i’ve read all ur comments and i strongly agreed with one commentz.. i’ve forgoten what is her or his nick.. he or she said, ur x suddenly pop-up in ur mind.. it doesn’t mean you still love her.. juz that sometyms you r’mber all those swit memories that both of u created while both of you are couples.!!
in addition, i strongly disagree with all those comments that asked you to belief in god.!! there is nothing to do with god. i said all this doesn’t mean i dun belief in god. i do belief in god, but can god help u in this matter? as what i’ve wrote above, its all depends on urself. depends on urself whether you wanna keep on hurting urself or forget everything.!! really.. belief me, there is nthng to do with god, so, you dun have to pray to god to let you forget all those swit memories. for me, once you go through those memories, it will remains forever in ur heart, unless you rili want to throw them far far away from ur life.
no matter what is ur decision, plz r’mber that 3/4 of the population in this world are female.. so you need not worry that you can’t find a better gf. its her great lost to lose such faith guy in her life.
last but not least, if ive say wrongly in this comments plz forgive me!! but this is all in my opinion and thanks for reading my commentz..
good luck in forgeting those who dont know how to appreciate you.
anyhow, you can juz send me msg if you have question regarding my comments and nice to share ur experience with ppl around the world =p
good luck in everything you do n plz do remember there is many gurls out there waiting for you to open ur heart for them.!!
take care n nice to read ur blog.!! have a nice day!!
I heard/read/watched a lot of that story, but I really know how you feel… ‘coz that’s exactly what i’m feeling ryt now… my someone brokeup with me few weeks b4 my bday, and you know what, he didn’t even bother to greet me on sms,email or in anyway he could… I shud not expect but how can i not, we’ve been together for 7yrs! how can i get that out of my system? I admire you that you remebered the birth date of that person who hurt you, ‘coz the one who hurt me doesn’t even bother to try… Good Luck! and as my friends keep telling me “There’s much more out there, you just have to keep moving on…”
well.. i’ve been in a similar occation before. the only different is i didnt say happy birthday. So, its nice of you to do that.
everthing is well said and done. i really appreciat the way you express your feeling.All i can say is find someone out there as saying goes ” Don’t cry over spilled milk, there’s a lot of fish in the ocean.” Go, go go! Dude!
no one can go back and make a brand new start, but anyone, can start from now on and make a brand new ending…
past is only a memory, so don’t remember it to much
Future is only a dream,
so don’t wondering it all the time,
just face the present and keep going, it will be better.
I’m just 16 years old, but i understand you… (even i’m never felt that way, but read yours made me feel like i was!)
i ever feel what u feel.. that’s why i know how it feels.
it is hard..very hard..very very hard. but what else you can do????
hoping? wishing? u just dreaming. so wake up then!
i do really know it’s hard and painful, so all you can do is just pray, only God cud give the best way, only God cud heal your pain dear. you can not be strong enough without Lord. and time will tell, TRUST ME!
sooner or later you will forget it dear. yah biarkanlah semua menjadi kenangan.
you see what am saying?
hiks.. gw ngerti prasaan itu..
Damn love..
ur blog is very nice it touched me..letting go is really very painful i’v been through it for 2 years..and it feels like hell and u wntd to just disappear instantly fom this world..we shared & suffered the same sentiments but wake up..the other side of life is still brighter with a lots of hopes and surprises…as the song goes”if u really loved someone just let him go if he comes then shes meant for u…just believed in prayers god answers it…and heal urself it must start from u so u can move on….
dude
always think that EVERYTHING HAS A REASON..it happened maybe because it wasnt meant 4u…
i know you still love her,,but try to love yorself too.. always pray to God..
tc!
so touching…u really make my heart cryin. cuz i feel the same, i can feel tht pain at d moment…damned hurt. even i try to fake it, i stil cudnt. i had promise myself to let him go, but it was bout six months ago…its easy to say, but try n be practcal…its harder than ever…
Just make wishes together, pray to God ” give wht the best 4 us “…If u shud be painful, so it be. Even u cant take it any longer. Well, believe in ur heart n say it many times ” I’m glad u’re gone. ” and for you just keep on saying, ” Semangat..!?!? “. It ll make u feel better..
I feel for you, dawg.
I’ve been goin’ through the same thing as you. I mean it’s already 1 year and I still can’t move on.
It’s as if time passes me by, but I’m stuck at one point. Doing daily routines but feeling empty inside. It’s like I’m dying inside and unable to ‘feel’ again.
checkout the lyrics of ‘What’s Left of Me’ by Nick Lachay. I think it kinda described your feelings and mine.
- Keep it strong, playa’ -
im still feeling what you’re feeling right now. just sort of stumble across your blog and realised that you were in the same situation as im in now.
but mine is worse than yours i guess. the guy didnt even wna reply my msgs or emails. that kinda broke my heart.
but im slowly letting it go, and not allowing my present boyfriend to know anything like that.
i hope you’ll find your happiness soon. maybe the girl will change her mind about you soon. =)
Be strong, the point of a romantic love is finding God in our relationship. You are now violating the first commandments of God, Thou shall no strange God before me.You worship your lover.
You’re not alone in that kind of misery…:-) I am with you! Just manage to smile. soon wounds will find its way to healing…Nothing stays the same! U’ll be happy the next moment..Good luck!
ur blog kinda similar to my experience just that the ”victim” is me myself. there’s no gdbye frm him. noting at all. frankly i still have feelings for him bt i knw that he no longer care abt me as he has find sumone new to replace me. another truth is dat though it has been several months now i still keep thinking abt him and the sweet memories that i had with him. Trying hard to erase those memories bt i jz cant do it. deep in my wounded heart i still think abt him. hpefuli he find out abt this one day….
hahhahhahhahha
First ask yourself this question, “Do you rather be with a person who half-heartedly love you or a person who whole-heartedly love you?”. If you prefer the person who whole-heartedly love you, I suggest you forget about the person who half-heartedly love you. It would be better than us living in a lie…which will even hurt us more later. You must be thankful that the person who loves you half-heartedly is already gone. I am sure the experience we had with him/her does not go into the drain. We learn a lot from our previous relationships. It makes us wiser and know how to judge the suitability of the people who we go out with in the future better. I am sure all of us will think the person who left us will surely regret sooner or later but it’s not up to us to decide whether he/she will regret. It shouldn’t bother us anymore. Everyone has a choice and the decision to leave us was in their hands last time. If they have a good life/bad life after leaving us, we should remain neutral in our feelings because we have our own life to live and own friends to spend time together with.
you know what, right now i’m feelin’ that i don’t want to feel the same thing that you feel when you realize that its time for both of you to separate. coz i know there will be a part of me that will really really feel pain. it hurts to let go of someone for a reason you cant explain. but it would hurt even more if one day you cross paths and realize you still in love wishing you had not given up.they say that “if you and your love destined to meet, you would meet by chance somewhere” but you know what fate is? building a bridge of chance for that someone you love.& maybe by sending a simple message and saying goodbye and take care to her will make some change and to think, she reply a thanks and a blessing ..
dont worry.. everything will gonna fall in its right place. pray to the Lord and He will answer you.
Move On.. SHe Hurt U..
U feel the pain..
yet is it worth..
U may still have feelings for her
but.. in the end it’s jus bring more suffering..
Frm- a crazy kid
another thing..
Even Tho i’m a Kid
I know wat it feels like
2 be hurt deeply
By some1 u love
May He who is great heal your broken heart
All I can say is yesterday is history, today is reality, tomorrow is the future. Hang in there and be strong. Life is to short so enjoy life. Good luck and God bless.
Hey! Its okey girl! Actually, I’ve been there.. The hurt and the drama… My experience though is much more complicated than what you had experienced. But now, thanks God I’m feeling okey. I knew i did the right thing. Doing the right thing is much more important than making yourself happy for the present…. Someone says, “Life is too short so break the rules… Laugh uncontrollably, love truly, believe slowly and never regret anything that had made you happy”. So, go on and be happy with your life. Hope you understand what I mean…
Good Luck!
erm..hey,girl.i’m also had the same xperience like u..its really hurt and pain in my heart. but then i realise that life must goes on. i pray to god to give me the braveness to move on in life.u should think the same thing also.what ever it is,god will always with us to help us throught out this journey..cheer up girl! u can do it.!
::i really like ur words::
::its make me 2 think bout..life…luv…::
::u have 2 be strong..cherish all da moment…::
::appreciate our life n enjoy it…::
Hey..Ur written really touch my heart, I hope u will get better after have some attention from over the world, everbody have ones problem in love but it will pass together with the time, let it go..love to much will kill your life, love GOD much will keep U alive..
hi!i have a passion for reading such story… as of this moment im trying to figure out if your experience would soon be my story…
thank you because through your blog i have learned from their comments and i think even before i will make my final decision i know it will be for the best… and it wont be hard for me to accept whatever the consequences are…
really bites but sometimes we have to stand and go on with life to find love again and be happy…its hard but i hope u’ll find that somebody the soonest. goodluck to both of us.he!he!
yah it really hurts but we must need to face the reality,we must also look to the other side… u know it happens to me so many times at first i was always seeking, asking question until i realized that he’s just human, we must not be selfish, we need to let them go so that we can move on, we must also understand his or her feeling, maybe for them we’re not the ryt one… thats why they left us… they need also to look and listen to their heart and maybe we’re not the one who’s in their heart… thats the reality and even it hurts us we must accept the truth as they say if u really love her set her free thats the meaning of true love… anyway there’s nothing wrong in greeting her
love hurts!!
Good post, mate… Reading your blog brought one person to mind… Someone I thought was only a fragment of my past but have just realised is still a big part of my life… Being in love requires vulnerability, hardwork and every other la-di-da in the book… Broken relationships take time to heal… I hope you’ll find that healing soon and soon see that there’s no need for beating yourself up over remembering a birthdate or sending an sms… It took guts… That I’ll say you have… But if she’s not the one, let it go… You’ll be better off that way… However, if you think there’s even the slightest chance of you both reconcilling, then do it or risk the regret that comes with knowing you’ve let a good thing go… TWICE…
reading ur blog made me remember my past and all the pain i felt during those times…i sympathize and i know how u feel.. i know it’s not easy to forget someone special in ur life especially if he or she is already in ur system…it will always be there no matter how hard u try to drive that feelings away…but time will come that u will be able to gather urself back, perhaps someone out there is willing to pick up the broken u and will make u whole again…take it from me, i was shattered, devastated over that break-up with someone i truly love..i thought and said to myself that i wud never love again..but here i am now, still alive and very much inlove with someone who reciprocated my feelings…
let time heal the pain…
God bless you… and help me pray for myself too!
Dude,understand how you feel. Am sure it’s real but it’s been over a year. Man,the way things read,she probably ain’t worth your time. There’s a time for everything . Maybe the time for grieving is over. Find someone who shares your values.Cheer up dude.
i cant say if i understand how you feel.. but shake of the feeling, let it flow.
whew! seems all are crazy bein inluv..i dont want to tel u its ok, sooner or later u’ll get over it, time heal all wounds,all things happen for a reason, and so and so.. but come to think of it, why we feel the pain of loving..? is this wat we cud get out of it? 1 day ure hapi and the other ure not.. we luv coz we let ourselves to.. so in each case weve been out there coz of our will.. knowing uve got the courage to write all these things though it hurts a lot rmemberin’i believe that u wil also find the courage to hook things that wil make the situation better.. u can do it.. beliv me!
hey chris…i think BETTER here really reads a lot, why those extraordinary words and phrases that he often use like something that he lifts from his readings…ya we all say its jzt the grammar.. and one more thing is BETTER’s blogs are jzt better like his title or even one of the best blogs on the net…its passionate,its romantic,its funny,its personal its not something that he writes to impress people..it has a soulful and intimate effect on readers that’s why…one way or another he is touching lives as he is passing through…Sail on BETTER!!
…your gaining critics out there well its a good thing!…more power to Iva & Chris!..smile…
i love sum1, i really really do … but for some reasons, i have to let him go coz i might suffer in the end.
well all you have to d0 is move 0n..and right that the best thing you can d0..every people encounter pr0blem..but still they tried to forgett the past..its her lost and not yours..and keep and mind and heart..there still a lot of problem to be solve..and dont stick to one okie..
Your innermost words are apart of you! People who live life with thousands of thoughts having in a good and beautiful things will turn out the way you fashion…….