Most of the times our mind playing
trick to us. Well….to me, actually.
It can outsmart me in most ways,
makes me imagine what I think is right then output an instant fantasy to the
first thing that popped-out from my head. For instance, I have this feeling for
someone who I thought was nice, smart, and maturely responsible. We met, we
talk and everything’s was just right. Until he just crossed that line where he
just pressed “oh-my-god-i-never-thought-he-act-this-way” button. So it was a
major turn off.
I do that thing often, a weak
side of my undeveloped personality that kept on raging back and forth inside my
superficial emotional body. I frequently fooled myself by what people called
“signs of nature” or probably just misinterpreted it to my own
imagination…haha. Let’s just simplify things the way of how our body got
attracted to someone else:
So, the fact that love, that mystical, elusive thing, rides on the back
of science may come as a bit of a shock. But the fact that chemistry may well
hold the reins to attraction and love shouldn’t come as such a surprise. Why do
you think two people who click are said to have chemistry? Chemistry is present
in all biological processes which control our lives; why should love, arguably
the very reason for living, be exempt?
Scientists have recently been investigating the chemistry of love and a
little molecule called phenylethylamine (PEA) is getting most of the credit
for causing initial attraction and lust. People who describe being first in
love as like being on a ‘high’ aren’t too far off as PEA is similar in
composition to amphetamine. Phenylethylamine may not be the most attractive of
names, but think how many poets, authors and philosophers it has inspired and I
imagine we can give it a break. The brain can be prompted to produce PEA by any
action as tiny as the meeting of eyes or an accidental touch: the stuff chick
flicks are made of. The chemical sieges our systems and causes all those pesky
symptoms of a crush: our palms sweat, breathing increases and our hearts decide
it’s a perfect time to start learning to tap-dance. Lust is also caused, in
both sexes, by the hormone testosterone. We’re in trouble now.
http://ifs.massey.ac.nz/chemistory/2006/MyChemicalRomance.pdf
See? It just how our body works
that caused all that troubles. We never really care if they were belonging to
someone else, how old are they, what lousy job they are having or what gender
they are. But for my case, I’m always having this tendency to fall very
quickly, by a simple talk or one nice attitude. Hmmph….I wish I could stop this
infatuation junkie behavior or else I could hurt myself in some point.
Then, I try to examine myself to
why I like someone who is better than me. I mean, we all are right? Either that
is physically, financially, emotionally or intelligently on a higher level than
ourselves, those are the types we looking for, for the sake of self development
right? Habits makes the difference in my opinion, so I started going to the gym for a change,
reading more books, talking to different people so I can learn something and
kept on going. What is for? Well, just a basic necessitate: I like guys who are
having more abs than me, because frankly speaking, our eyes is the gate to the rest of our body &
mind, correct? Its bullshit when other telling you “I like that person by
his/her inner beauty”. I mean, c’mon… how do you know if you hasn’t seen them!?
Anyway, I want people to be sexually attracted (theoretically speaking) by the
way I look. So I improve it by exercise more, make a first impression yet the
best they ever experienced. Then, I armored myself with knowledge from every
aspect of life; at least people can’t fool me then.
But then again speaking, it is
still depends on how we open the door of our heart to other people when they
have reached our door grip. My door is bit rusty with hurt and pain all over.
So I always have to try harder to let people in, especially that particular one
that can close back the door and stay in forever.
hi
I guess you are right with chemicals… you see our body is controlled by neurotransmitters… these are chemicals that enable the body to to maintain homeostasis… most of them either produce sympathetic (fight or flight response- waking up the whole system and making it alert) or parasympathetic (the total opposite of the first mentioned)responses…. Most of these transmitters are produce in the command of the brain in accordance to stimuli that the brain received… they pass the brain’s message to specific receptors and thus we move, we feel, we change vital signs or moods…
or something like that….
And yeah… have you heard about Freud’s Psychosexual theory?
Our childhood is really essential in molding us on what we are today… gender issues, vices, and even mannerisms are all the product that a person got from his childhood.
For example during the Phallic stage, boys experience Oedipus complex while girls Electra… absence of either a mother or a father figure can easily jeopardize that whole stage and the person might end up having relationship and affection problem or even identity crisis…
wala ng bang iba
FREUD’s Theory of Psychosexual Development:
According to Freud, people enter the world as unbridled pleasure seekers. Specifically, people seek pleasure through from a series of erogenous zones. These erogenous zones are only part of the story, as the social relations learned when focussed on each of the zones is also important. Freud’s theory of development has 2 primary ideas: One, everything you become is determined by your first few years - indeed, the adult is exculsively determined by the child’s experiences, because whatever actions occur in adulthood are based on a blueprint laid down in the earliest years of life (childhood solutions to problems are perpetuated) Two, the story of development is the story of how to handle anti-social inpulses in socially acceptable ways.
http://www.a2zpsychology.com/great_psychologists/freud_psychosexual_thoery.htm
wow!
no comments,actually i dont know anything about this but i’m interested to know more……………..
hhmmmnnn…great piece
” I’m always having this tendency to fall very quickly, by a simple talk or one nice attitude”… Umm…excuse me ?. But I do believe that you’re not the only one,babe.I mean,it’s natural that we fall easily on nice attitudes, great words and stuff like that.We,sometimes,would settle for the things we wanna hear/see.Even if we do know those things aren’t real.But instead of having nothing at all, having “fake things ” sounds a bit better.So that way, at least,we have something. Other then nothing. Well,at least for me. Hehe. *smooches*
its gud…
there are many things that can’t be explained naturally…
ei,looks like were incapsulated by some sort of inferiority or should we say insecurities here huh,correct me if im wrong but that’s how your composition got translated to me.just be cool about it dude,we all have that kind of mentality / delema sometimes.but if you reassess everything else,there’s really no reason to prove your self into.to get another person’s approval?what for?there’s a whole lot of stereotypical people living in this world and they all got diffrent standards.to be “accepted”?in what sense.you can get one or two people’s attention but your not gonna please them all.coz they’re have the same mentality as everyone else including you…”To be recognize and to top the fast lane”. anyhow it’s nice to learn how chemistry worx,it’s kinda basic how you explain those sort of stuffs but wow it tells a lot.nice meeting your blog!!!!
ang pangit nya
ganda mu……………..sobra………………………………
ok lng…. impormative…. wanting more???
haven’t try to read “The 7 habits of highly effective people” by stephen covey..since you’re looking for a change,think it will contribute some help..keep it up..
just reading in between lines..i dont have much to say only that you have art in your lines…keep writing.
hi! that was great…. I enjoyed reading your piece….
your a genius man!
cool!~
good point if u said that bullshit if someone said that it just look from inner beauty. doesn’t make sense to me.ha..ha..!! i not trying to become a negative person, but that the reality rigth?? i think many people still judge to book from the cover.
dont judge the book by its cover!!!!yun lng un..hehe.wla n bng ibng write ups?more on love!!!!hehe
e2 lng yan.dami tlgang tao n FAKE!!!manloloko!!!lang ginwa kundi COLLECT END SELECT at the end mllnmn mu niloloko klng pla…huhu..bkit kylngan manloko kung kyang mag mhal tlga ng 22o?try nio kce mgmhal ng 22o.hindi un ang dmi nio colle
ct..okey?m ffeel nio tlga un true love..naks
PEOPLE! the guy is not a Filipino so why give comments in tagalog?
nice blog by the way!
You blog so well. You know,I only open my Friendster account just to read your blogs and to learn more about life from your experiences. Why not try to open an account in multiply.com? I heard it has better features.
damn yes,,the eye is the gate of mind,,!!
that’s why, it’s also the first way-in for sinister deeds,,
God forbids,,the joy i had from both of my eyes,,,